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Tuesday, January 20, 2015

CONTROL YOUR LIFE


Other people are only able to control your life WITH YOUR CONSENT.

I DON'T CONSENT!

Without pointing any fingers or playing the "blame game", I have unilaterally decided that I WILL control my life.

I am a member of several "lists".  I post and comment on other posts on each.  If you're my age, you probably remember them being called "bulletin boards".

They are a "place" online where people with something in common can "gather" to exchange pleasantries and information, ask and answer questions and generally have an "over the back fence" or "over the front hedge" conversation.

The "something in common" could be personal background, neighborhood, crime watch, bucket list, etc.  Almost anything.

No one, other than the list owner, should try to LIMIT these conversations to what THEY think is appropriate.  Like:
"Who do you know that can repair my barn door?"  or
"How do you fix a leaky faucet?"  or
"Have you seen my little lost dog/cat?"  or
"Be aware there some strange (looking) people in the area."
While these ARE legitimate subjects for conversation, they are certainly NOT the ONLY things to be talked about.  Putting arbitrary limits on a list is a sure way to kill it.

Religious and political discussions should be kept to a minimum because they are strictly a matter of personal opinion and it's guaranteed someone else will have the opposite opinion.  These conversations can and will result in someone's feelings getting hurt.  GET OVER IT.  The trick is to not prolong the p***ing contest.

Take your best shot and then walk away from the thread.

When you talk to your neighbor over the back fence most people will joke around a bit.  There is nothing wrong with this.
 
 

 
NO THIRD PARTY, except the list owner or the list owners duly appointed representative, has the right to remove someone's post or tell someone;  "Don't post that", "Don't comment that way".
A short while back I made the mistake of allowing someone on a list to push one of my buttons.  I left a list because a third party was offended by a comment I, jokingly, made to someone else and told me it was "inappropriate" to joke with anyone.
That button has been disabled.
I'm going back on the list.  I will make every effort to be neighborly.
If I say something on that list, another list, or this blog that offends you,
you may take your best return shot.
After that:  TALK TO THE HAND
 

 

Sunday, August 19, 2012

… Life After War …

BOOK REVIEW

I also posted this review on Amazon.com

I haven’t blogged for almost a year, however, I am going to review not just one book, but a series.

On my Kindle, I have read the first four books in the “Life After War” series by Angela White.  These books deal with America after a nuclear / chemical / biological war.
 
Book One: “The Survivors” immediately hooked me.  Within the first few pages the characters start coming to life with a vibrance normally reserved for later chapters.  They are individuals, each with a story to tell, who interact with the others in unique ways.  You can’t really see how all of them will come together as the story progresses, but rest assured “all will be revealed”.

Book Two: “On The Road” continues to follow the story lines as they converge.  Like most of us, each of these characters carry their personal EMOTIONAL baggage … revealing each item, working through it, then throwing it away on the side of the road.  They each also discover talents they didn’t know they had or refused to acknowledge.

Book Three: “Safe Haven” where the stories begin to converge.  The charismatic leader.  The Marine who becomes his second in command.  The lady who is determined to find her son.  The other Marine who didn’t know he had a son.  The hard-as-nails cop with the heart-of-gold.  The slaver from south of the border determined to conquer America and populate it with his bastard children.  They all have deep, dark secrets they don’t want revealed to the light of day.

Book Four: “Adrians Eagles”.  We now get a glimmer of what the future may hold.  The characters aren’t just filling out, they are growing.  With each passing day some of them find an amazing inner strength that helps them do what’s right inspite of, or because of, the possible consequences.

I believe I may have become a thorn in Angela’s side.  I have been bugging her about …..
you guessed it:
Book Five:  (not named, as of this writing).
Angela:  What are you doing wasting time reading this … get to work!  :-D

Sunday, August 21, 2011

NEED WASHING?


A slightly different twist on a post, by a very good friend, on her blog.

It was pouring outside.  The kind of rain that gushes over the top of rain gutters.
So much in a hurry to hit the earth, it has no time to flow down the spout.

We all stood there, under the awning, just outside the door of Walmart.

We waited, some patiently, others irritated because nature messed up their hurried day.
I am always mesmerized by rainfall.  I got lost in the sound and sight of the heavens washing away the dirt and dust of the world.

Memories of running, as a child, splashing so carefree, came pouring in as a welcome reprieve from the worries of my day.

A little girl had been shopping with her mom in Walmart.  She must have been
6-years-old.  She was a beautiful red haired, freckle faced image of innocence.

Her little voice was so sweet as it broke the hypnotic trance we were all caught in:
“Mom, let’s run through the rain.”

“What?” Mom asked.

“Let’s run through the rain.” She repeated.

“No honey, we’ll wait until it slows down a bit.” Mom relied.

The young child waited a minute and repeated:
“Mom let’s run through the rain …”

“We’ll get soaked if we do.” Mom said.

“No we won’t, mom.  That’s not what you said this morning.” The young girl
said, as she tugged at her mom’s arm.

“This morning?  When did I say we could run through the rain and not get wet?”

“Don’t you remember?  When you were talking to Dad about his cancer, you said
‘If God can get us through this, He can get us through anything.’ ”

The entire crowd became silent … I swear you couldn’t hear anything but the
rain … We all stood silently.  No one left.  Mom paused and thought for a moment
about what she should say.

Now some would laugh it off and scold the child for being silly.  Some might even ignore what was said.  But, this was a moment of affirmation in a young child’s life.
A time when innocent trust can be nurtured so that it will bloom into faith.

“Honey, you are absolutely right.  Let’s run through the rain.  If God let’s us get wet, well…maybe we just needed washing.” Mom said.

We all stood watching, smiling and laughing, as they ran across the parking lot, dodging cars and stepping in puddles.  They got soaked.

They were followed by a few who screamed and laughed like children all the way to their cars.  And, YES, I did.  I ran.  I got wet.  I needed washing.

Circumstances or people can take away our material possessions.  They can take away our money.  They can take away our health.  But nothing and nobody can take away our precious memories.  Don’t forget to take the time to make memories every day.  To everything there is a season and a time to every purpose under Heaven.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them,
a day to love them, but then a lifetime to forget them.

“Link” this to the people you’ll never forget.  Let them know you are thinking
about them.

Keep in touch with your friends.  You never know when you’ll need each other.

Take the time to LIVE!
And DON’T FORGET TO RUN THROUGH THE RAIN!!!

Getting Old Is A B- - - -

This one is for anyone who is interested.  Just so I don’t have to “tell the tale” over and over.
I’m not sure how to start it, so I will just go with chronological.

7/21/2011 3pm:               Went to the emergency room at Kaiser Permanente Zion Hospital with severe pain and swelling in the groin area (and below).  After 7 hours of tests, they sent me home with antibiotics and painkillers.

7/22/2011 10am:              Returned to the emergency room with unbelievable pain and increased swelling.  After another 7 hours of tests the doctor told me he could send me home with a different antibiotic or admit me to the hospital.  Thank God I went for the hospital.

7/22-24/2011:                            The next 2 ½ days were filled with tests, including ultra-sound(3 of them).  Bouncing sound waves off an infection & abcess in that, already very sensative, area brings new meaning to the word “excruciating.”  To her credit, I could see the emotional pain it(my pain) was causing the operator of the equipment.  A lot of prayer time was used up in those few days.

7/24/2011 2pm:               Finally on Sunday afternoon, after a visit with the Infectious Disease doctor, the doctor from Urology came in and we discussed our “options”.
Option #1:   Continue trying to treat the problem with just antibiotics.  It turns out antibiotics can’t get past the threshhold of an abcess. Very possibly have to have surgery, anyway.
Option #2:   Go in for surgery immediately to remove the abcess, damaged - - - -, and surrounding tissue; then treat with more antibiotics.

Disregarding my natural male instinct to go with Option #1, in a vain attempt to protect what was mine, I went with Option #2 … Once, again Thank God.

7/24/2011, 6pm:     Surgery to remove one - - - - and the surrounding infected tissue.

7/25-28/2011:                  Three days of phasing in and out of reality due to medications of all kinds.   WARNING:  Stay away from Percocet!!!  It can make you crazy, literally.

7/28-present/2011:           Home to the best nursing care in the world, my wonderful wife.

8/5/2011, 7am:       Back to work a week too soon.  Wish I could have waited the recommended extra week.

Did I mention, for those of you who are uninitiated, that, while in the hospital:
#1:  Three times a day they stab a vein somewhere on an arm or hand to “draw” blood?
#2:  They wake you up every two hours, on the hour, to take your blood pressure, temperature, and (as I’m a diabetic) prick your finger to check your blood sugar.  If your blood sugar is too high, they also stab you with an insulin injection 15 minutes later.
#3:  Every two hours, on the half-hour, they make you turn back-to-side or side-to-back.
#4:  In the intervening time they keep waking you up to ask how you are or to try to get you to eat the most tastless cardboard on earth.***
#5:  Whatever happened to “Get Some Rest!” ???

*** When I, eventually, realized I could order specific items, not on the “list”.
I finally got edible food.

Recovery is a long road and mostly uphill.  I am a very impatient patient.  The worst part of recovery is waiting until it’s “safe” to do the things my mind & body are demanding I try.  Especially when I realize that some of the long wait times are medical CYA.

As Forrest Gump said:  “That’s all I got to say about that.”
(You’ll have to mentally ‘hear’ the accent)

Saturday, April 23, 2011

Tips for Better Life for 2011

             This came to me in a pps.
             I thought it was worth passing on.

             Tips for Better Life for 2011

  1.       Take a 10-30 minute walk every day.  While you walk, smile.
  2.       Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
  3.       Sleep for 7 hours.
  4.       Live with the 3 E's : Energy, Enthusiasm, and Empathy.
  5.       Play more games.
  6.       Read more books than you did in 2010.
  7.       Drink plenty of water.
  8.       Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that
is manufactured in plants.
  9.       Eat breakfast like a king ... lunch like a prince … dinner like a beggar.
10.       Make time to practice meditation, and prayer.
They provide us with daily fuel for our busy lives.
11.       Dream more while you are awake.
12.       Smile and laugh more.
13.       Try to make at least three people smile each day.
14.       Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.
15.       Don't have negative thoughts about things you cannot control.
Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
16.       Spend time with people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
17.       Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. 
18.       Don't take yourself so seriously … no one else does.
19.       Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner about his/her
mistakes of the past. This will ruin your present happiness.
20.       Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn.
Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade
away like algebra class, but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
21.       You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
22.       Don't compare your life to others'.
You have no idea what their journey is all about.
23.       Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
24.       Your job won't take care of you when you are sick.
Your friends will. Stay in touch.
25.       Forgive everyone for everything.
26.       What other people think of you is none of your business.
27.       However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
28.       Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
29.       Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
30.       The best is yet to come.
31.       No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
32.       Don't over do it. Keep to your limits.
33.       Your inner most self is always happy.  So be happy.
34.       Do the right thing!
35.       Call your family often.
36.       Each day give something good to others.

Thursday, March 10, 2011

Phone On The Wall. Hello.

I loved this story and just had to pass it on.  I hope you enjoy it too.


When I was a young boy, my father had one of the first telephones in our neighborhood.. I remember the polished, old case fastened to the wall. The shiny receiver hung on the side of the box. I was too little to reach the telephone, but used to listen with fascination when my mother talked to it.

Then I discovered that somewhere inside the wonderful device lived an amazing person. Her name was "Information Please" and there was nothing she did not know. Information Please could supply anyone's number and the correct time.

My personal experience with the genie-in-a-bottle came one day while my mother was visiting a neighbor. Amusing myself at the tool bench in the basement, I whacked my finger with a hammer, the pain was terrible, but there seemed no point in crying because there was no one home to give sympathy.

I walked around the house sucking my throbbing finger, finally arriving at the stairway. The telephone! Quickly, I ran for the footstool in the parlor and dragged it to the landing. Climbing up, I unhooked the receiver held it to my ear.
"Information, please" I said into the mouthpiece just above my head.

A click or two and a small clear voice spoke into my ear. 
"Information."

"I hurt my finger..." I wailed into the phone, the tears came readily enough
now that I had an audience.
"Isn't your mother home?" came the question.
"Nobody's home but me," I blubbered.
"Are you bleeding?" the voice asked.
"No," I replied. "I hit my finger with the hammer and it hurts."
"Can you open the icebox?" she asked.
 I said I could.
"Then chip off a little bit of ice and hold it to your finger," said the voice..

After that, I called "Information Please" for everything.. I asked her for
help with my geography, and she told me wherePhiladelphia was.
She helped me with my math.
She told me my pet chipmunk that I had caught in the park just the day before, would eat fruit and nuts.
 
Then, there was the time Petey, our pet canary, died. I called,
Information Please," and told her the sad story.. She listened, and then said things grown-ups say to soothe a child. But I was not consoled. I asked her, "Why is it that birds should sing so beautifully and bring joy to all families, only to end up as a heap of feathers on the bottom of a cage?"
 She must have sensed my deep concern, for she said quietly, " Wayne , always remember that there are other worlds to sing in."

Somehow I felt better.

Another day I was on the telephone, "Information Please."
 "Information," said in the now familiar voice. "How do I spell fix?"
I asked.

All this took place in a small town in the Pacific Northwest . When I was nine years old, we moved across the country to Boston . I missed my friend very much.
"Information Please" belonged in that old wooden box back home and I
somehow never thought of trying the shiny new phone that sat on the table in the hall. As I grew into my teens, the memories of those childhood conversations never really left me..

Often, in moments of doubt and perplexity I would recall the serene sense of security I had then. I appreciated now how patient, understanding, and kind she was to have spent her time on a little boy.

A few years later, on my way west to college, my plane put down in Seattle . I had about a half-hour or so between planes. I spent 15 minutes or so on the phone with my sister, who lived there now. Then without thinking what I was doing, I dialed my hometown operator and said, "Information Please."

Miraculously, I heard the small, clear voice I knew so well.
 "Information."
I hadn't planned this, but I heard myself saying,
"Could you please tell me how to spell fix?"
There was a long pause. Then came the soft spoken answer, "I guess your finger must have healed by now."

I laughed, "So it's really you," I said. "I wonder if you have any
idea how much you meant to me during that time?"
I wonder," she said, "if you know how much your calls meant to me.
 I never had any children and I used to look forward to your calls."

I told her how often I had thought of her over the years and I asked if I could call her again when I came back to visit my sister.
"Please do", she said. "Just ask for Sally."
 
Three months later I was back in Seattle .  A different voice answered,
 "Information."
I asked for Sally.
 "Are you a friend?" she said.
"Yes, a very old friend," I answered.
"I'm sorry to have to tell you this,"She said. "Sally had been working part time the last few years because she was sick. She died five weeks ago."

Before I could hang up, she said, "
Wait a minute, did you say your name was Wayne ?" "
 Yes." I answered.
 "Well, Sally left a message for you.
She wrote it down in case you called. 
Let me read it to you."
The note said,
"Tell him there are other worlds to sing in.
He'll know what I mean."
 I thanked her and hung up. I knew what Sally meant.
 
Never underestimate the impression you may make on others..
 Whose life have you touched today?
 Why not pass this on? I just did....
 Lifting you on eagle's wings.
May you find the joy and peace you long for.
 Life is a journey... NOT a guided tour.

Tuesday, February 15, 2011

What’s Really Important?

A friend had to remind me of that.  Thank you Sheila. (See comment on previous post)

I decided to try to make this posting upbeat.  Feeling a little better about myself  since last Saturday.  Life’s little ups and downs, I guess.

I received the following in an e-mail from a long-time friend.  I’ve known him since elementary school and I won’t tell how long that’s been (our bowling balls were rocks).
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Two men, both seriously ill, occupied the same hospital room:

One man was allowed to sit up in his bed for an hour each afternoon to help drain the fluid from his lungs.  His bed was next to the room’s only window.  The other man had to spend all his time flat on his back.  The men talked for hours on end.

They spoke of their wives and families, their homes, their jobs, their military service, where they had been on vacations… every afternoon, when the man in the bed by the window could sit up, he would pass the time by describing to his roommate all the things he could see outside the window.

The man in the other bed began to live for those one hour periods when his world would be broadened and enlivened by all the activity and color of the world outside.
The window overlooked a park with a lovely lake.  Ducks and swans played on the water while children sailed their model boats.  Young lovers walked arm in arm amidst flowers of every color and a fine view of the city skyline could be seen in the distance.

As the man by the window described all this in exquisite detail, the man on the other side of the room would close his eyes and imagine the picturesque scenes.  One warm afternoon, the man by the window described a parade passing by.  Although the other man could not hear the band – he could see it in his mind’s eye as the gentleman by the window portrayed it with descriptive words.

Days, weeks and months passed.  One morning, the day nurse arrived to bring water for their baths only to find the lifeless body of the man by the window, who had died peacefully in his sleep.  She was saddened and called the hospital attendants to take the body away.  As soon as it seemed appropriate, the other man asked if he could be moved next to the window.  The nurse was happy to make the switch, and after making sure he was comfortable, she left him alone.

Slowly, painfully, he propped himself up on one elbow to take his first look at the real world outside.  He strained to slowly turn to look out the window beside the bed.  It faced a blank wall..

The man asked the nurse what could have compelled his deceased roommate to describe such wonderful things outside the window.  The nurse responded that the man was blind and could not even see the wall.
She said, “Perhaps he just wanted to encourage you.”

Epilogue:

There is tremendous happiness in making others happy, despite our own situations.  Shared grief is half the sorrow, but, happiness, when shared, is doubled.

“Today is a gift … that’s why it’s called The Present.

I pray you will pass this on to all your friends for whom you wish God’s Blessings.

Saturday, February 12, 2011

Dream or Reality?

Sitting here without a thought in my head.  Not one that can be published, anyway.

            I re-read my last blog and it was really scattered.  I’ll try to make this one less so.

            I look at the people around me, that I don’t like, and I realize how similar I am to them.  I see me in some of the things that I don’t like about them.  OK, a lot of things.

I’m the dreamer who is suddenly forced to awaken.  I’m torn between trying to go back to the dream (usually not possible) or getting up and doing something in the reality (sometimes not desirable).  Often it’s difficult determining which is the dream and which is reality.

            Perhaps a dream state is more natural.  Our bodies produce a chemical which helps us go to sleep, but does not do anything to help us wake up … thus, we have alarm clocks.  Isn’t it interesting that the term “alarm” is used?  Alarm = send a warning / generate fear / cause a “fight or flight” response.

            Sometimes I feel like George Bailey during the first part of It’s A Wonderful Life.  I’ve often thought that title should have ended with a question mark.  Have I significantly affected anyone’s life?  I don’t know.

* I never finished college.

* Courtesy of Uncle Sam, I participated in a war … but I didn’t do anything particularily significant or heroic.
I pray that God has forgiven me for the part I played in that conflict.

* I never saved anyone’s life … that I’m aware of.

* I was an auto mechanic for many years, but never did anything notable.

* I have been doing smog inspections for 36 years and can’t even remember the vast majority of the 75,000+ tests I’ve personally done.  Recently, because of events and research, I’ve come to the conclusion that even all the tests I’ve done are totally insignificant … the program is not about cleaner air, it’s about politics (by now you know my opinion on that subject) and money.  The people who control politics and money don’t care whether we can breathe, only that we continue to pay a multitude of taxes and government “fees”.

* I never built anything lasting.

* I participated, am participating, in a wonderful marriage.  I believe that had more to do with a very loving and tolerant woman than anything I did.  I still love her very much.

* I had a Tax Preparation buisness for a few years, but, that is history.  Mostly due to the economic downturn, proliferation of home PCs, government fees, software and the fact that it isn’t fun or profitable any more.

* The past few years of medical bills I’m sure have helped a couple of doctors and health insurance executives take trips to the Bahamas … is that significant? … I doubt it. <G>

* I’ve been an Ordained Minister for several years.  I’ve never done anything with it … maybe I should?  At the time I got ordained, it was free and I did it just for a lark (online - Universal Life Church).  I can do the same things other ministers can do;  preside at marriages, funerals, baptisms, etc.  NO circumcisions (reserved for a Rabbi with training).  That’s OK by me.

And Moses said:  “Lord … let me see if I’ve got this straight.  The arabs get all the oil and we get to cut a half inch off our what”?

            The other day I told a customer about Earth being the Insane Asylum of the Universe.  He asked me if I knew this because I had been to other planets and seen the difference?
I said:  “Yes, and I told someone about it.  That’s why they put me here.” <G>


Gotta Go Now.

Monday, February 7, 2011

Life, Me And ...

My better half of 42 years is a school librarian.  If I have any questions about books, authors, movies, music, etc., I ask her.  If she doesn’t know, she finds out.  She knows the Dewey Decimal System.  I’m lucky to be able to find a fiction author using the alphabet.  I’m completely dependent on her knowledge and her ability to find information on the internet.  She is awsome.

“In the case of good books, the point is not how many of them you can get through, but rather how many can get through to you”
Mortimer Adler, 1902 – 2001
                        Educator & Philosopher

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            The #1 job of a bureaucrat is:  protect the bureaucracy … at all cost.  Especially if that cost is paid by the tax payers.

            What’s the difference between the U S Congress and the Boy Scouts of America?
The Boy Scouts have adult supervision.
           
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            When I started this blog, I didn’t expect to be doing so much introspection.  I find myself analyzing myself! …………………………… Did I say that right?

I find myself using the “Ego” words (ie. “I”, “My”, “Me”, “Myself”, etc.) a lot.  Then I remember the name of this blog.

            I’ve begun to doubt that I was a good parent.  We had three boys.  Each has his own personality.  I’m proud of them all.
            Each seems to live in his own world and now and then gets to sign in on a “Visitor’s Pass”. <G>
            I have never dealt well with children.  Sometimes I’m surprised God allowed me the priviledge of having them. 
            Don’t misunderstand me … I’m not fishing for denial, pity or forgiveness.  The past is what it is.  I do have regrets, I think we all have some of those lurking about, but, we can’t change the past and I’m not sure it would be a good idea to do it if we could.

            Back to the subject, I’m sure sometimes, maybe a lot of times, I expected too much of our boys.  I was selfish and wanted them to grow up quickly so I could enjoy them.  This put a very heavy load on my wife, which she carried extremely well.  Our children couldn’t have wished for a better mother.
            Children have to learn to be children before they can be expected to grasp the many facets of being an adult.  I guess I spent a lot of time and energy figuring out how to “earn a living” and “provide for my family.”  Some, or a lot, of that probably would have been better spent “enjoying my family.”
            Like I said:  “The past is what it is”.  All we can hope for is to learn from our mistakes and not keep remaking too many of them.

            I’m not sure it’s just children I don’t tolerate very well.  It might be people in general.  I think most dogs are better people than most people and the more dogs I meet the less I like people.
            Maybe it’s just not in my nature to like, or trust, the vast majority of humans.  When the protests started in Cairo, I thought:  ‘This peaceful protest is going to turn into a riot.’  Sure enough, it did.  Complete with looting, burning and killing.  When you fill the pot full and keep stiring, it’s bound to boil over. 

To misquote an old PP&M song lyric:  “Where ever two or more of them are gathered, it’s insane.
Where’s the love … Where’s the love”.

I’m beginning to wonder if this is a blog or a book.  Maybe I should let it end somewhere in between.
More later.

Catch Ya On The Flip Side.